Texual Communications (Revised)
It has, once again, come to my attention that I should stop using text to communicate with prospective companions. Nothing i've been exposed to thus far has been the cause of so many misunderstandings/fights as text.
I know why it bothers me; It's not what's being written, it's what's not being written, how long it takes to respond, and punctuation/lack thereof. They're all subject to the observers' perspective and often times, what we read isn't what the other person means to say. Fucking confusing!
People like myself, ones of the hyper-observant pursuation, are often times jaded about text conversations because they just never live up to the conversations you can have in person. I'm just so dissatisfied with the responses I get that it makes me not want to respond. To prevent this jaded feeling, I will, from this point further, have the expectation that I wont ever be satisfied with text communication and leave it at that.
If this chick wasn't so cool, I probably wouldn't care, but in her case, I'm taking extra precautions to make sure my neurosis doesn't compromise a perfectly healthy growing relationship with her. To make me even more paranoid about this, she knows my blog address. I suppose if she has read it with any frequency, it shouldn't concern me because she's still talking to me.
A former associate of mine made a comment on my FB today about wondering why I'm still single. Geez, can you open a bigger fucking can of worms? Where do I start? Let me sum it up by saying that I think this blog should be changed to 'how I fucked it up and what to do if you want to remain single' but that's too damned long. On the outside, it would appear that i'm 'normal', but I know that's nowhere near being the truth.
It's true that I'm entirely too hard on myself about matters of the heart. Is it wrong to not want the best for yourself? My theory here is that I'm not happy with myself, so how could I expect others to be happy with me?
Right...now you know what's been on my mind lately.
It has, once again, come to my attention that I should stop using text to communicate with prospective companions. Nothing i've been exposed to thus far has been the cause of so many misunderstandings/fights as text.
I know why it bothers me; It's not what's being written, it's what's not being written, how long it takes to respond, and punctuation/lack thereof. They're all subject to the observers' perspective and often times, what we read isn't what the other person means to say. Fucking confusing!
People like myself, ones of the hyper-observant pursuation, are often times jaded about text conversations because they just never live up to the conversations you can have in person. I'm just so dissatisfied with the responses I get that it makes me not want to respond. To prevent this jaded feeling, I will, from this point further, have the expectation that I wont ever be satisfied with text communication and leave it at that.
If this chick wasn't so cool, I probably wouldn't care, but in her case, I'm taking extra precautions to make sure my neurosis doesn't compromise a perfectly healthy growing relationship with her. To make me even more paranoid about this, she knows my blog address. I suppose if she has read it with any frequency, it shouldn't concern me because she's still talking to me.
A former associate of mine made a comment on my FB today about wondering why I'm still single. Geez, can you open a bigger fucking can of worms? Where do I start? Let me sum it up by saying that I think this blog should be changed to 'how I fucked it up and what to do if you want to remain single' but that's too damned long. On the outside, it would appear that i'm 'normal', but I know that's nowhere near being the truth.
It's true that I'm entirely too hard on myself about matters of the heart. Is it wrong to not want the best for yourself? My theory here is that I'm not happy with myself, so how could I expect others to be happy with me?
Right...now you know what's been on my mind lately.
posted by Tobiwan | 11:16 AM
2 Comments:
Normal is entirely overrated.
But you do need to learn to be happy with yourself. It's not so hard really. :)
I'm glad I'm that cool. :)
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